The Decision That Changes Everything
There’s a moment when you realise this can’t be the rest of your life.
Not in a dramatic way. Not in a way that demands you burn everything down or make grand pronouncements. Just a quiet knowing that settles in - this life, as it is right now, doesn’t quite fit anymore.
It’s the kind of realisation that arrives on an ordinary Tuesday. You’re doing the same things you’ve always done, moving through the same routines, but something has shifted. The dissatisfaction isn’t loud. It doesn’t announce itself. It’s just there, humming quietly beneath the surface.
And once you notice it, you can’t un-notice it.
I think we’re taught to ignore that feeling. To push through it. To convince ourselves that wanting something different is ungrateful or unrealistic or impractical. We tell ourselves we should be happy with what we have. That other people have it worse. That this is just how life is.
But what if that quiet dissatisfaction isn’t a problem to solve? What if it’s information?
What if it’s your life trying to tell you something important - that you’ve outgrown this version, that there’s another way, that you’re ready for something that fits better?
The decision doesn’t have to be dramatic. It doesn’t require a complete life overhaul or a carefully crafted exit strategy. It can be as simple as deciding that from this point forward, things are going to feel different.
Not because you’ve changed everything externally, but because you’ve made an internal commitment to design your life differently.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately as I relaunch Art of Abundance and work on creating this Substack. This feels different. Not because I have all the answers or because everything is perfectly in place, but because I’ve made a decision about how I want these projects to be built.
I want my work to be something I’m proud of. Something I don’t have to redo later because I rushed it or forced it or built it on shaky foundations. I want it to help people - to share ideas and thoughts and the real process of designing a life that feels abundant in all the ways that matter.
And I want to do it properly.
That decision changes everything. Not overnight. Not in ways that are immediately visible. But it reorients how you move through your days. How you prioritize. What you say yes to and what you let go of.
Right now, I’m seven months pregnant, living in a house mid-renovation with no skirting boards and wall panelling that’s been delayed by a month. We’re building a new office outside to make room for the nursery. My mornings are spent walking my daughter Isla to kindy, trying to keep my body moving even though it’s getting harder.
Nothing about this season is tidy or complete.
But the decision has been made. This life - this business, this home, this rhythm - is going to be designed intentionally. Not perfectly. Not without mess or uncertainty or delays. But with clarity about what matters and what doesn’t.
That’s what changes things. Not the perfect conditions. Not the finished house or the complete plan or the ideal circumstances. The decision itself.
Because once you decide your life is going to be different, everything else starts to reorganise around that commitment. You start making choices that support it. You start saying no to things that don’t. You start trusting that this season of building - even when it’s uncomfortable or slow or imperfect - is exactly where you need to be.
You don’t need permission to make this decision. You don’t need to wait until everything is ready or until you have more time or until the conditions are perfect.
You just need to decide.
And then trust that future you will thank you for choosing differently now.
If you’re in that moment - the quiet realization that this can’t be the rest of your life - I see you.
And I’m sharing this journey here, in case you’re going through something similar.
Because maybe it helps to know you’re not alone in the middle of it.